Fury Freeze: Understanding Anger Paralysis and How to Overcome It
When we get cut, we clean the wound and find something to cover so it won’t get infected. When someone tells us to “p*ss off”, we get angry and might even respond with a delightful middle finger.
That’s it.
But what happens if you suddenly remember someone telling you that “you were a failure” when you were a child?
Children do not know how to process feelings of shame and anger, so they usually repress those emotions as a defense mechanism.
Unfortunately, years later, those bottle-up emotions may resurface as a cocktail of angry afternoons, fists on the walls, and lashes of pure ire.
These moments remind us of a time in our lives when we felt betrayed and humiliated by those we hold dear.
This is what it’s called: Freeze mode. A place where our brains seem stuck and emotions deny us a chance to process our thoughts as adults.
Everybody Freeze!
Have you ever heard of the “fight or flight” response?
If you find something you can beat: “fight”.
If you can’t beat it, then you “flight”.
If you can’t do either: You Freeze
